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My heart cried last week: Part One

Posted on October 16, 2018 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

The intense angry sexual assault conversations knocked down the door to my secret pain. For all intent and purposes, I am well adjusted. I live in my worthiness, I believe my circumstances are not who I am. And, my abusers have long since died. However, on rare occasions, unpredicted triggers catch my breath in hushed fury. I ask the ghosts “How could you? How dare you? YOU were supposed to protect me.” Yet, I never told. “The Equal Employment Opportunity Commission reports receiving 12,000 allegations of sex-based harassment each year, with women accounting for about 83 percent of the complainants. That figure……
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Are the “Man Code” and “self-compassion” enemies?

Posted on September 25, 2018 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

I recently overheard a father telling his preteen son what it means to be a man. It prompted sharing the following blog. “At the age of ten a boy begins imitating a man. And he continues doing this for the rest of his life.” -Mark Twain Most guys get lessons on how to live by the “boy code” from an early age—in families, playgrounds, schools, churches and temples, and on the streets. Even very young boys learn to “keep a stiff upper lip,” “not show their feelings,” “act real tough,” “not act too nice,” and “be cool.” Since the surest……
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September is Suicide Prevention Month

Posted on September 18, 2018 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

When a family member commits suicide, the entire family is plunged into confusion and grief. Life is instinctually valued by all of life’s creatures. Even a blade of grass of a flower fights for the privilege of life. When someone close to you voluntarily ends their life, your entire value system is thrown into question. Family members may also be consumed with guilt thinking they somehow should have seen the signs that led to the individual’s suicide. Consider My Best Friends Departure by © Carina Spencer I jumped, you caught me. I laughed, you joked. I was down, you picked me up.……
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How do you spell neighbor?

Posted on September 4, 2018 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

It seems most of us have forgotten. The 24/7 global news cycle upholds the fact that indeed we have. Bob Goff, bestselling author, suggest the following in his 2018 book, Everybody Always: “Each of us is surrounded every day by our neighbors. They’re ahead of us, behind us, on each side of us. They are every place we go. They are sacking groceries and attending city council meetings. They are holding cardboard signs on street corners and raking leaves next door. They play high school football and deliver the mail. They’re heroes and hookers and pastors and pilots. They live……
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Four Hard Truths About Today that Will Make You Stronger Tomorrow

Posted on August 14, 2018 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“Life keeps leading us on journeys we would never go on if it were up to us. Don’t be afraid. Have faith. Find the lessons. Trust the journey today. We are all beautiful human beings, just trying to find our way. Today and every day we seek to better understand the meaning of our lives. We long to discover our gifts and release them fully into the world, and we hope to find happiness, peace, and strength along the way. For some of us, the key to these desires rings loud and clear, driving what we do and how we……
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What was the last note you wrote to you?

Posted on August 7, 2018 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“You need to do hard things to be happy in life. The things most people avoid, such as those that make you uncomfortable, that are far easier to hide from, that others can’t do for you, that make you second-guess yourself and question how you’re going to find the strength to push forward. The hard things ultimately build you up and change your life. They make the difference between existing and living, between knowing the path and walking it, between a lifetime of empty promises and one filled with progress and fulfillment.” We distract ourselves. We procrastinate. We make excuses. ……
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Are you friends with the elephant in you?

Posted on June 26, 2018 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“Zookeepers typically strap a thin metal chain to a grown elephant’s leg and then attach the other end to a small wooden peg that’s hammered into the ground. The 10-foot tall, 10,000-pound elephant could easily snap the chain, uproot the wooden peg and escape to freedom with minimal effort. But it doesn’t. In fact, the elephant never even tries. The world’s most powerful land animal, which can uproot a tree as easily as you could break a toothpick, remains defeated by a small wooden peg and a flimsy chain. Why? Because when the elephant was a baby, its trainers used……
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What airbrushed social media cannot show you.

Posted on June 19, 2018 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

One Insanely Popular Love Story that Breaks Too Many Hearts. “We make our relationships so much harder than they need to be. The difficulties started when conversations became texting, feelings became subliminal, sex became a game, the word “love” fell out of context, trust faded as honesty waned, insecurities became a way of living, jealously became a cyclical routine, being hurt started to feel natural… and running away from it all became our go-to solution. Let’s stop running! Let’s start working together to face these issues—to break the cycle, to communicate, to appreciate, to forgive, and to LOVE the people……
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5 Hard Things You Need to Start Doing for Yourself on Hard Days

Posted on May 29, 2018 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“On particularly hard days when I feel that I can’t endure, I remind myself that my track record for getting through hard days is 100% so far. And, I remind myself that hard days are necessary, to live through and to learn from. The hardest days make us who we are, inside and out. So many of us are afraid of ourselves, of our own truth, and our feelings most of all. We talk about how great the concepts of life and love and passion are, but then we subconsciously hide from them every day. We hide from our truest……
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Current day politics made me walk into this space

Posted on May 22, 2018 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

Honesty is one of the treasured values of human being. Living life honestly means opening oneself freely and exposing one’s true self to others. Honesty is essential because it acts as the glue holding people together. Moreover, honesty helps a person to conquer problems and excel in his life. However, is this always right to tell truth? First of all, honesty is the foundation upon which a person builds any relationship with his loved ones such as family or friends. By being honest to his loved ones, he will make them feel that they are trustworthy and closed enough for……
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