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Surviving human trafficking with Susan Young

Posted on July 14, 2019 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

Danielle Douglas was 17 years old, a freshman at Northeastern University, when she met the trafficker who forced her into two years of sex slavery. Her mother Jamie spoke with UNICEF USA about the factors that made her daughter vulnerable — and what parents need to know about trafficking in the United States. Jamie Chesman: We definitely had some mother-daughter angst. She didn’t always give me a lot of information about her life or interests. I think that a lot of our daughters feel like they’re ready before they’re ready — she definitely felt that way. We dropped her off, carloads full of things from Bed……
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Choose to take the next step.

Posted on June 4, 2019 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“It really only takes a small shift every day that over time amounts to enormous change. People don’t suddenly heal and start living their ideal life overnight—their daily rituals (tiny steps) play a massive role in making it possible for them to create the life they sincerely want to live. You can choose to develop daily rituals that point you in the direction of creating your ideal life—or rituals that keep you firmly anchored to your present situation. Make the decision. Make the commitment. Then take the next tiniest step forward in the direction you choose to go. Honestly, that’s……
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Six words that can save marriages.

Posted on May 28, 2019 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“Because Battling over a household chore? Your request is more liable to be fulfilled if one magic word is used: because. Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer found that people are more willing to comply with an appeal if you simply provide a reason—any reason. But We’ve all been told not to use the word “but” for an apology (as in, “I’m sorry, but…”), which comes off as an excuse and feels like a less-than-sincere mea culpa. In a series of experiments, however, psychologists Sandra Murray and John Holmes discovered the word can have a magically protective effect in relationships. They had couples……
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Shout Out to All the “Mean Moms”! Woot Woot!!!

Posted on May 14, 2019 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“Are you a Mean Mom? Do you require specifics and details? Do you trust but verify? Do you watch over your child in a way that makes sure wherever they go they’re safe? Do you resist changing your position at a moment’s notice? Do you hold to your beliefs? Have your kids recently called you a Mean Mom? Can I just say that parenting (mothering) is not for the faint of heart? There’s no time to be all in your feelings. The day has started stuff has to be done. People have to be places, little noses have to be……
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It’s okay to be selfish: HAPPY EARLY MOTHER’S DAY!

Posted on May 7, 2019 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“We spend so much of our time taking care of others and focusing on all the things that need to get done. In the midst of it all, it’s easy to forget about ourselves or to let self-care tumble to the bottom of our priority list. It’s easy to convince ourselves that it’s okay to ignore our own needs or “wait until later” (which hardly ever happens). And it’s all too easy to go without the time, care, and compassion that we need. You know how that turns out. One day we realize that not only are we busy, but……
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I owe you this!

Posted on April 23, 2019 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“What Parents Need to Know About 4/20 4/20 Day — the celebration of marijuana that occurs every year on April 20 — gets more popular every year. And while you probably haven’t heard too much about it, your kids likely have. That’s because 4/20 awareness spreads mostly on the sites and apps that attract tweens and teens, such as Twitter, YouTube, Snapchat, Instagram, TikTok, and other social media. Even mainstream companies including Wingstop, Lyft, Ben & Jerry’s, Denny’s and Burger King use the day to promote their brands not on TV or Facebook (where parents are), but on platforms with a younger following. If you’re looking for evidence of the virality of 4/20 Day,……
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Choose an attitude that moves you forward.

Posted on April 15, 2019 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“The Greek philosopher Epictetus said it perfectly more than 2,000 years ago: “People are disturbed, not by things (that happen to them), but by the principles and opinions which they form concerning (those) things. When we are hindered, or disturbed, or grieved, let us never attribute it to others, but to ourselves; that is, to our own principles and opinions.” In other words, a peaceful and mentally strong person is not someone who’s always in a good situation, but rather someone who always has a good attitude in every situation. Regardless of what you’re going through, it’s about choosing: Will……
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It’s Women’s History Month: She could accept the injustice, or she could rewrite the law

Posted on March 12, 2019 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“Every six months, the routine was the same for 21-year-old Harvard student Amanda Nguyen. She would walk through the doors of her local rape crisis center in Massachusetts and plead to administrators: Do not destroy my rape kit. With the massive backlog of rape kits in the U.S., it was nearly impossible in some states to ensure that a kit was tested, let alone even track down its location. New York City alone reportedly has an estimated 17,000 untested rape kits. Under Massachusetts law, Nguyen had to locate her own rape kit and file an extension to preserve the evidence in……
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REWIND: There is a place where lost, lonely, and left out youth can write their second story.

Posted on January 7, 2019 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“David has been homeless since the age of 12. He first started “couch surfing”, but by age 17 David ran out of places to visit and ended up on the streets. Even while living on the streets, David worked hard to stay in school. A social worker eventually connected with David and let him know about the youth shelter where he currently lives. Penny says he has been hopping trains for a few months now, but he has been for almost a year. Jimi has been traveling for the better part of two years. She took a few months to “kick……
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My heart cried last week: Part two

Posted on October 23, 2018 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

This is a continued conversation about sexual assault and why women don’t tell sooner, or ever. Last, week in part one I introduced the concept from my personal sexual abuse rear-view mirror. The words here are not meant to indict, but to shout comfort in the fact that none of us has to feel alone ever again. Our voices heal! Last week we talked about feelings of shame. Victims of sexual harassment and sexual assault in adulthood or sexual abuse in childhood tend to feel shame because as human beings, we want to believe that we have control over what happens to……
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