“Are you a Mean Mom? Do you require specifics and details? Do you trust but verify? Do you watch over your child in a way that makes sure wherever they go they’re safe? Do you resist changing your position at a moment’s notice? Do you hold to your beliefs? Have your kids recently called you a Mean Mom?
Can I just say that parenting (mothering) is not for the faint of heart? There’s no time to be all in your feelings. The day has started stuff has to be done. People have to be places, little noses have to be wiped, bathrooms have to be scrubbed, homework must be supervised, and the list goes on and on and on. We love our kids and we know they really do love us. But are we friends right now? No. Will we be one day? I certainly hope so. But right now, I’m responsible. I’m responsible for raising a responsible person. Which means they may not like me. Which means we’re probably not friends right now. Which means I probably have earned the title Mean Mom. But you know what, I’ll wear it. And wear it proudly. I am the mom asking will adults be there. I am the mom asking who is going with you. I am the mom asking how you are getting there and how are you getting back home. Better yet, I’ll drive you. I am the mom asking did you do your homework; how did you do on that test? So yeah, I’m the Mean Mom. And I’m not even mad at the moms that aren’t Mean Moms. I’m not mad at the fact that they’re willing to do some of the things that I want for my kids. I’m not mad that they don’t ask the questions that I’m asking. I’m not mad at all. Because guess what, they’re raising their kids and I’m raising mine.
So shout out to all the Mean Moms out there, Woot Woot!!!!!
In a time where three-year-olds get the option to not eat the dinner, we’ve cooked so we cook a whole other meal for them. In a time where kids tell parents what they’re going to do and when they’re going to do it. Shout out to all you moms who are able to stand your ground and willing to do what you know your kid needs. Shout out to all those moms who are willing to hear, “I hate you” because they know that what they’re doing now will make a difference 10, 15, 20 years from now. Shout out to all of you moms who know that even if my kids call me mean, deep down I know what I’m doing is right and it’s in their best interest. Not an easy job. Never has been never will be. But shout out to you for sticking with it and gettin’ ‘er done.”
You are not alone.
You are not your circumstances.
You have everything within you to live a purpose-filled life.