Life lessons | Tyra Garlington

How we see ourselves is who we become

Posted on July 12, 2017 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“As human beings, the stories we subconsciously tell ourselves about our circumstances, about others, and about life in general drastically changes how we feel. If the stories are positive, we tend to feel good. If the stories are negative, we tend to lose hope. Of course, there’s more to feeling good than just thinking positive. The details of your present reality matter and make a difference, but generally speaking, you’re not going to have a good day today if you’re hell-bent on telling yourself otherwise. The stories we tell ourselves don’t just change how we feel – they actually change……
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What do you have to do?

Posted on July 5, 2017 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

Here is some more good “stuff” I discovered during my recovery while all I could do was read. Enjoy! “YOU don’t have to get a job that makes others feel comfortable about what they perceive as your success. You don’t have to explain what you plan to do with your life. You don’t have to justify your education by demonstrating its financial rewards. You don’t have to maintain an impeccable credit score. Anyone who expects you to do any of those things has no sense of history or economics or science or the arts. You have to pay your own……
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Want to see what grandmother left behind?

Posted on May 3, 2017 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

“When my grandmother, Zelda, passed away a decade ago at the age of 90, she left me with a box of miscellaneous items from her house that she knew I had grown to appreciate over the years. Among these items is an old leather-bound journal that she aptly named her Inspiration Journal. Throughout the second half of her life, she used this journal to jot down ideas, thoughts, quotes, song lyrics, and anything else that moved her. She would read excerpts from her journal to me when I was growing up, and I would listen and ask questions. I honestly……
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Speak and you will be heard.

Posted on April 18, 2017 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

The millennial — “a turn-of-century generation,” a transformative generation, and a generation that kind of saw its view of the world and the ground on which it was standing unsettled, shifted, very rapidly and bluntly. While doing research about communications between generations, I listened to a panel discussion that included multigenerational participants. I captured several insights from an outstanding millennial participant on the panel to share with you. I felt more than comfortable with her as a steward of her generation. I invite you to read or listen to the entire podcast, Repairing the Breach referenced in the footnote. “Perhaps……
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Can you remember once upon a time?

Posted on March 21, 2017 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

It took me a while to accept the fact that once upon a time never comes again. And thus, remembering will have to do. Once upon a time, March 21st was the day Mother would awaken to breakfast in bed, a dozen red roses, lots of singing and hugs and presents from Daddy and me. We treated birthdays as both intimate and big moments. We saw one another as gifts that God had given to us and the world. Once upon a time, Mother was a single parent while Daddy was away at war and disabled in a Veterans Hospital.……
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Resonate Anyone?

Posted on January 24, 2017 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

We all struggle. We all suffer on the inside. Every day: We worry. We procrastinate. We feel overwhelmed. We feel angry. We feel lonely. We don’t feel good enough. We wish we were thinner We wish we had more money. We wish our jobs were different. We wish our relationships were different. We think everything in life should be easier. And yet, every one of these struggles is self-created. They are real, but they are only real because we have created them in our minds. We have attached ourselves to certain ideals and fantasies about how life should be……
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What’s in a movie?

Posted on December 21, 2016 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

Some messages are worth repeating. This is one. There are enough Christmas-themed movies to watch one a day for months leading up to Christmas! What is your favorite? It’s a Wonderful Life consistently ranks among the top contenders for Best Christmas Movie Ever, and today you are invited to journey to Bedford Falls and discover the faith lessons found in It’s a Wonderful Life. When George Bailey sidles up to Martini’s Bar on Christmas Eve, he’s at the lowest point of his life. In the span of only a few hours, he has: (a) learned that the Bailey Building and……
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The act of showing up

Posted on November 17, 2016 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

While I was away, I searched for, found, listen to, shared with and internalized new wisdom from those who are walking a similar or parallel path as me. Most importantly, was the affirmation that this walk is a process and not an event. Today I want to share some words of wisdom from Mollie Ah Singh based on her historical field trip in South Africa. “I like watching people “people watch.” I guess you could call me a people watcher of people watchers. People are reuniting with full force hugs, an elderly couple holding hands, the hysterical laughter of two……
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The power of words

Posted on November 10, 2016 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

The following wisdom was put forth in a video I watched when Dave Chappelle sat with Maya Angelou. It was poetry. “Words are things. You must be careful, careful about calling people out of their names, using racial pejoratives and sexual pejoratives and all that ignorance. Don’t do that. Someday we’ll be able to measure the power of words. I think they are things. They get on the walls. They get in your wallpaper. They get in your rugs, in your upholstery, and your clothes, and finally into you.”[1] “Maya Angelou spoke this truth, and it resonated with me. Resonated……
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Let our life speak for itself

Posted on October 25, 2016 by Tyra Garlington • 0 Comments

This week I am sharing another pearl of wisdom I picked up while I was away. It comes through the pen of author Parker, J. Palmer in his book, Let your life Speak. It is a moving meditation on the question, “Is the life I am living the same as the life that wants to live in me?” “We arrive in this world with birthright gifts – then we spend the first half of our lives admonishing them or letting others disabuse us of them. As young people, we are surrounded by expectations that may have little we to do……
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