What if you had to be the one?

At least a generation ago, singer Dusty Springfield sang a love song containing the following lyrics:

“Wishin’ and hopin’ and thinkin’ and prayin’
Plannin’ and dreamin’ each night of his charms
That won’t get you into his arms
So if you’re lookin’ to find love you can share
All you gotta do is hold him and kiss him and love him
And show him that you care”

Now consider this.

“What if you peered into a fortune ball right now — this very second, today — and saw with indisputable clarity that you were never going to meet the love of your life?”

I’m aware this is a sad thing that I’m asking of many of you.  You’ve been hoping to meet ‘The One’ for a while now — or at least someone you could deal with for the rest of your life. Maybe you already have.

“So if you knew, with indisputable certainty, that love was never going to be yours, how would you live your life differently? What about your daily routine would you alter? What about your long-term plans? My inclination is to believe that never finding love would be a game-changer for most. You would probably initially consider it to be devastating. However you may eventually realize it is the ultimate liberation.

“Without the fear of ending up alone, the opportunities open to you would become endless. You could live on every continent. You could scale the corporate ladder. You could go back to school and get that degree you’ve always felt interested in, without worrying about the financial burden your debt may place on somebody else.

“Love holds us back in an infinite amount of subtle ways that perhaps we do not even realize. And the guarantee of its absence may just be the ultimate sense of liberation. We have to start appreciating all that we bring to our own lives. Because the ironic truth is we are most attractive when we are not worried about who we are attracting. When we are living our lives confidently, freely and without restraint, we emit the kind of energy that just isn’t possible to fake. The kind of energy that’s capable of transforming not just our own life, but the lives of people around us.

So stop looking for The One to spend the rest of your life with. Be the One.

And let everybody else come searching for you.”[1]

After reading Heidi Priebe’s post, her words begged to be both shared and challenged. I’m not sure where I land on her theory because as you know I am a romantic, signed, sealed and delivered. I do like and agree with the fact that confident energy is attractive and attracting.

What are your thoughts?

[1] http://thoughtcatalog.com/heidi-priebe/2015/05/read-this-if-youre-worried-that-youll-never-find-the-one/

    Until next time, remember,

• You are not alone.

• You are not your circumstances.

• You have everything within you to live a purpose-filled life.